What do you say when someone asks you, “How are you doing?” I always respond, “Excellent, as always!” I say it loudly and emphatically. Then, I ask how they are doing. I rarely get a response that is equal to mine. My mentor, Myron Golden, taught me the ‘excellent, as always’ response.
Your attitude bleeds from your subconscious mind to your entire body. Responses such as, OK, not bad, could be worse, etc. drive your day and your life. When you allow negativity to enter you mind and stay around for a long time, you begin to dig a deeper hole in your current comfort zone. It’s harder to do anything positive in your life. Goals and dreams drift away unattained.
I know some people that lose control when you mention a person’s name – a friend or family member; or even a political figure. They allow that other person to control their emotions. Why? Maybe they have never been trained to control their own emotions. Yes, there are times that everyone is legitimately upset with certain things that are brought to their attention. But, these things are few and not very often. We are human and we do have human emotions.
For most of our lives we should strive to control our attitude, feelings, and outlook. If we harbor and grow positivity in our subconscious, our mindset will be positive and our posture and way of behaving is positive. It is hard to be otherwise. Positive thoughts and visualizations are conducive to personal growth and success.
If you expect good, you will receive it. Yes, I know, you’ve heard that before. Like most things in life, you have to cultivate the seeds of success, fertilize them, water them, weed around them, trim them, and nurture your mindset to reap the rewards of your harvest. Positivity drives positive expectations.
Your positive mindset should be anchored in success, happiness, joy, cheerfulness, accomplishment and victory. If your mindset is looking for disenchantment, regret, discontent, dissatisfaction, failure, defeat, etc. you will seek situations that will drive you there, and reinforce your negative expectation.
Some people think this is hooey – they don’t accept it and don’t believe it. However, there are thousands of people who have found that it works – not overnight and not in 21 days. If you’ve spent the vast majority of your life programming your subconscious with negativity, how can you expect to override that enormous data base with positivity in just a few days or weeks?
Am I always positive? No, there are times when I dwell on topics that are not desirable for attaining my goals. As soon as I realize that I am focused in the wrong direction, I stop and reset my mindset. It used to take a long time – several minutes or longer – to rid my brain of some negative influence. With concentration and practice, it has become easier to brush those thoughts away and keep them away.
You have to dismiss a lot of stuff and to create your own positive world. I read an article in which a researcher analyzed published academic journals from 1970 through 2000. He categorized them as focused on joy and sadness. It was amazing to me, but it should not have been, that over 46,000 were written on depression and related subjects. Only 400 focused on happiness and joyfulness. What does that tell you about our academic focus? If the audience (we, the people) is negative, then that’s where they do their research.
Start today, with your personal response to the question, “How are you?” and begin exuding confidence and positivity. It took me almost a month before ‘excellent, as always’ felt comfortable. It took three or four months before I started to believe it. I find that just saying ‘excellent, as always’ cheerfully kick-starts my attitude into high gear.
Start today, early in 2018, and change your answer to the daily-asked question, “How are you?” Pick a response that reflects what you want to be. Regardless of the level of liquid in the glass, it is always a full glass containing both liquid and air.